Outside of a wedding ring, I don’t know many men who wear a lot of jewelry (unless they are a rapper!). I know a few guys who wear a chain around their neck or maybe a bracelet. I don’t wear much jewelry, and up until a year or so ago, I only wore a ring. Due to money issues in my first marriage, I ended up pawning a few gold charms I had, and eventually my wedding ring. If I hadn’t put my foot down, I may have been forced to pawn a very special piece of jewelry.
In a recent blog, I posted a picture of my daughter on my chest. In that picture, you can see a bit of a necklace that I began wearing again within the past few years. This is the brief story of this golden gift that means quite a bit to me.
My grandmother had given me a chain with a cross on it when I was probably about 13 years old. The chain ended up breaking because it was so thin, and she gave me another one. One Christmas I had asked my parents for a trumpet charm to wear on that chain. I wish I could remember the year, but that escapes me. It may have been shortly after my grandpa died in 1981, but I’m not sure.
At any rate, I remember it being the last gift my mom handed me to open that year. It was such a simple charm, but I loved it. She told me she had it specially made for me. She knew some jeweler who had made a ring or something for her and they did it. I wore it all the time – until a few years after I got married.
At some point during that relationship, I was told how silly it was to wear the necklace. “You’re not even in band anymore. That horn sits in the case collecting dust. You look silly wearing that thing,” I was told. So I took it off and it sat in my jewelry box for years.
Fast forward to a few years ago. I was moving some stuff around at the house and my jewelry box fell and the stuff in it fell out. As I picked up things like my class ring, my tie clips, tuxedo studs, I picked up my necklace. I immediately thought of my mom and just how happy she was to give that charm to me. So I put it on. Sam said she’d never seen me wear it before and I told her why I stopped wearing it. She told me she liked it and told me I should wear it anytime I wanted. I haven’t taken it off since. I have actually had patients ask about it while I am working. My nieces always ask about it (and try to play it) when I am holding them. I am sure Ella will do the same when she gets bigger. She will even occasionally grasp onto the chain when I am holding her today.
The only other piece of jewelry I would ever consider wearing is a pinky ring – after all, I am Italian. Dean Martin and Frank Sinatra both wore matching pinky rings that Frank had made for them, a gesture that showed their love for each other. I think it’d be cool to wear one.
The chain and charm are one of two pieces of jewelry I wear every day. The other is my wedding ring. Each piece is a reminder of very special women in my life. One promise I can make – you will never see me walking around with this ridiculous amount of jewelry on!