What would you do?

If I were still doing radio full time, this would be a topic I’d talk about on the air. The radio guy in me still looks for those little things that happen around us and thinks of how you can use it on the air. We used to call these “phoners.” With a phoner, you have a situation or a story that you throw out to the listeners and ask them what they think about it. I guess it is almost like a poll. “What would you do?” kind of thing.

So here is my observation: two friends on Facebook this week were talking about how they were going through their pictures on Facebook and deleting photos that contained their exes. One was recently married and so she was deleting anything with an old boyfriend in them. Another was remarried and deleting pictures of his ex and former in laws.

As someone who went through a divorce and is now happily married, I completely understand how some of the pictures that come up in Facebook Memories can bring up bad memories. At the same time, you cannot deny that those events happened and that those people were a part of your life at that time. So what do you do? Do you go in and delete these photos completely? Do you just delete the ones of the people you want to forget?

When I was married to my ex, she made me get rid of my prom pictures (cause I ended up dating the gal I took for a while), and any pictures with a former girlfriend in it. As I have said in the past, I am who I am today because of the people and events of my past. I can’t change that. They are pictures of moments from the past. Does getting rid of them or deleting them matter?

I’m not on the radio anymore, so you’ll have to voice your opinion in the comment section here or on Facebook. What do you think? Delete or Keep?

9 thoughts on “What would you do?

  1. I’ve deleted pictures, burned stuffed animals and letters, had my class ring destroyed… all because of my first wife’s jealousy.
    It’s not worth it and I feel the loss deeply.
    ***Our past made us who we are today

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  2. You can’t change who you are and all of us had a past life including her.

    I thankfully never had to deal with that to that degree. The first thing I told my wife when we met and got serious is if you EVER say “it’s either playing music or me” YOU will lose every time. I played music then and it took up a lot of time.

    That set the tone and to her credit she has never has said anything…now she didn’t like going to a relatives house and seeing a picture hanging up with me and a former girlfriend of mine…I get that totally…but she only said something to me about it.
    Not that she can’t get jealous…she can especially over one girl in particular …but old pictures and things like that no…I kept them all. I saw friends go through that and I learned…and by the time I met her…I was 24 so I was a little more in the know than when I was 18.

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    1. We all have a past. The fact of the matter is that we are with our current spouses and what is in the past is in the past! We chose them! That, in itself, is something that speaks volumes!

      I have never known love like I do now. My wife is so supportive, so loving, and so caring. She truly is my soul mate.

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      1. The only reason I didn’t get in a cycle like that is that I waited longer than a lot of my peers before getting married…32…not because I was smart…because I was terrified of commitments.

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  3. I guess I must be pretty lucky i’ve never had to deal with that, I am married to the first girl I dated. After 39 years of marriage, we haven’t killed each other yet. So I guess that’s a good thing.

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