March is National “Music In Our Schools Month.” For those who have been followers of my blog since the very beginning know my feelings on how important Music Education is to students. Whether it is band, orchestra, or choir, the benefits of music education speak for themselves.
I have shared many blogs reflecting on my time in band, my friendship with my band director, and musical memories in general. Before the month of March winds down, I wanted to re-post a “re-run” of a blog I wrote a few years ago. The basis of it is a paper I wrote for my college composition class.
Today, it seems that when schools are in trouble financially, sports and the fine arts are the first things that are cut. Many times this comes about because people do not pass millage proposals or because of school board members who have no ideas of the benefits of music education.
I encourage you to read this and share with others, especially if there is a remote possibility that your school district is considering removing fine arts, sports or other extra curricular activities!
I have about 6 things I WANT to write about, a few things I NEED to write about, but today I’m tired. So I figured I would just post a wonderful quote from the amazing Ella Fitzgerald.
I want to thank all of my readers here and all of my Facebook friends who reached out to wish Sam and me a Happy Anniversary. It truly was a great day. I thought I would share a recap with you.
I worked Friday night, so I got home early Saturday morning. I brought home a dozen roses for Sam. She was still in bed when I got home, so I trimmed the stems and put them in water and left them on the counter.
When everyone was up, we got breakfast started and everyone ate. She had Ella bring me my gift from Sam. I handed Ella a card to give to Sam….and she opened it before Sam could!
Sam got me/us a very cool couples book. It is such a neat idea. Within the pages are “dates” that are hidden by a covering, similar to the way an instant lottery ticket covers numbers. Above the date is an approximate cost of the “date”, the best time of day to do it, and about how long it will take. Once you scratch off the date…you have to do it! Then you document the adventure and put a picture of it in the book.
I’m not sure how many adventures/dates are in the book, but we are looking forward to finding time to do them and enjoy each other’s company. There are more books in this series. Maybe we’ll get more.
I don’t remember how long ago she mentioned it, but Sam had said she wanted to get an electric kettle. I decided that would be a good anniversary present to go along with my date plans. It’s actually really neat. It reminds me of my old percolator. She hasn’t had a chance to use it yet, but I’m sure she will this week.
I had seen some “mom” rings just after Ella was born. I wanted to buy Sam one back then, but wondered if we were going to have anymore children, so I held off. Well, now that we have decided that we are done having kids, I wanted to get her one of those rings.
I loved the design of it. It has the two birth stones in the center and a place for the child’s name next to their stone. You could also include a message on the inside of the ring. For that, I simply chose “I love you.”
After sleeping for a few hours, I woke up to get ready for the date day I had planned. I called my friend Margaret and she came over to watch the kids. They love Aunt Margaret so much.
I’m gonna veer off here for a brief moment. I had really hoped to keep my plans a secret, but Sam doesn’t like surprises. She began asking questions a few days before our anniversary. She eventually got out the cities we were heading and that was it. She knew I planned a dinner, but had no idea of what we were doing beforehand.
As I said before, she has been extra stressed. I decided I would pamper her a bit and made an appointment for a couples massage. I was pretty excited about this. I figured she’d never guess. Technically, she didn’t.
In finalizing plans with Margaret, I told her my plans. She said, “Make sure you tell her to shave her legs. If my husband took me for a massage and I hadn’t shaved my legs, I’d be embarrassed.” Once I told her she should have her legs, the guessing began. “Oh, you’re taking me for a pedicure?”, She asked. I simply responded with “Maybe.”
Then she threw the wrench into the works by saying, “I hope it isn’t a massage, because I don’t like the idea of being touched.”. My face must have really let the cat out of the bag. I had made a deposit and thought she would be excited. I didn’t really think about her not wanting one.
She apologized and said she would go. She was very nervous about it. She had told me that the kids (and me) are always touching her, so the last thing she wanted was someone else touching her. As we pulled into the place, I couldn’t help but think of how nervous she might be.
We had two very nice gals as our massage therapists. We walked in to a quiet room where the massage tables were. There was calm music playing. We were told to strip down to where we were comfortable and then climb into the tables and get under the sheets.
I had not had a massage in years. It was very relaxing. Sam’s therapist knew she had never had a massage, so she was very careful and always made sure she felt comfortable. I was glad.
I joked with my therapist saying she has drawn the short straw and had to deal with my back hair! She chuckled and said she had seen people with way more back hair than me! At one point my nose got so stuffed up, I had to start breathing out of my mouth. Although I probably could have, I didn’t fall asleep. I must have sounded like I did, because Sam asked if I was sleeping.
I must have had more stress than I thought, because there were times she was massaging my back and it hurt. Once she worked that spot a bit, the pain went away. I really felt relaxed afterwards. She might have been lying to make me feel better, but Sam said she enjoyed her massage, too.
Our dinner reservations were set for 6:30 that night, and we arrived about a half hour early. We decided to go in, and they were able to get us right to a table. We went to the Redwood Steakhouse and Brewery. I’d been there a couple times with country artists when they came through town and enjoyed it.
It has a very rustic feel to it, you know, with the deer antler chandeliers and such. I knew it was going to be a bit more expensive than the steakhouse we normally go to, but that was ok. I could have taken her where we always go, but for our anniversary I wanted to do something different.
I couldn’t decide whether to get steak or ribs. I always end up talking myself into a filet mignon, which I ordered, despite the cost of beef these days. It was absolutely delicious. I was disappointed that they didn’t have a baked potato, but mashed potatoes were ok. Sam opted for fish and chips, which was equally delicious.
I haven’t has a real beer in probably a year, but knowing that they brewed their own I had to order one. The brew I chose was similar to a Killian’s. It was very good. If I drank beer more, I would have grabbed a growler of it to bring home.
We were both pretty stuffed after dinner, but Sam had her eye on a piece of New York Cheesecake, so we made sure to get a piece to bring home. We both got to enjoy it later that evening.
Having a special day with my wife was just what we both needed. It was nice to have time together without a baby or toddler needing our immediate attention. Holding hands and talking at dinner shouldn’t have been such a big deal, but it was. It was perfect.
You know what’s funny? As a parent, you can’t wait to have some time away from your kids, so that you can enjoy being a couple for a bit. However, you can’t help but wonder how they are doing while you are away, and are extra glad to see them when you get back home!
It is now officially our 4th wedding anniversary. Over the past few days, the various photo memories from 4 years ago have popped up in the Facebook Memories feed and they have made me smile.
Sam and I were married in Florida. Ours is a wonderful love story. I know that I have added many new followers since I first told how our friendship turned into a relationship and eventually a life as husband and wife. For you newcomers, I blogged all about it for our first wedding anniversary. It was a series of three blogs. Here they are so you can catch up:
As I reread those blogs, all the emotions come running back to me. They made me laugh, smile, cry, and smile all over again. What a wonderful journey we have been on.
Of course, our family has grown since those blogs were written. We’ve been blessed with our beautiful daughter, Ella and our handsome son, Andrew. The kids keep us VERY busy and we are always lacking sleep, and we wouldn’t change that for the world. They bring us both so much joy and I’m sure they will continue to do that for years to come.
I can’t imagine life without Sam. I disappoint her and annoy her often. I forget to do things all the time. I make messes. I make mistakes. I’m far from perfect. She continues to love me. She forgives me. She puts up with me. She reasons with me. When I am confused, angry, or emotional, she is the voice of reason. She is the “glue” that holds everything together. That is why I wanted to write something specifically for her.
My dearest Samantha,
I could spend hours and hours standing in a Hallmark store looking through thousands of cards, and none of them would ever be able to express how grateful I am for you. None of them would be able to convey how very much I love you. To be perfectly honest, I am not sure that I can even find the words to do that, but I’m going to try..
I had no idea when we met that we would fall in love. When we did and talked about getting married and having children together, I had no idea that when we did it would be this amazing. I had no idea that along with the happiness, there would also be struggles. In four years, we have been through a lot, and always come out on top. God has always made sure things fall into place. I have no doubt that He will continue to be ever present in the years we have ahead.
Thank you for being so good to me and for being so loving, patient, and kind. You’re as thoughtful today as you were when we first met. I’m thankful that you’re so willing to listen to me and to share with me your feelings and dreams, even your concerns and your worries. I always heard how important open communication was in marriage, and I wholeheartedly believe it.
I honestly can’t think of how my life would be without you in it. I imagine it would be empty, sad, cold, and meaningless. As the coming years pass, I know that the love that we share will continue to grow. I look forward to growing old together, (even though many would consider me old already). The thought of all the upcoming years spent by your side brings me such deep joy and an inner peace that I can hardly comprehend. I know that, no matter what, we’ll stay together, through thick and thin. That’s what real love and commitment is all about, and that’s what I have for you.
Thank you for the many memories that we have made over the past four years. They will forever make me smile. Thank you for being such a wonderful wife to me. I am so very lucky to have you as my soulmate. Thank you for being such a loving mother to our children. They are as lucky as I am to have you in their life. Finally, thank you for loving me. Your love means everything to me. I look forward to the future and cannot wait to make new memories with you and our family.
I love you with everything that I am today, tomorrow and forever.
For the first time in 2 years, the Chicago River was dyed green yesterday.
The St. Patrick’s Day tradition had been put on hiatus because of the Covid-19 Pandemic. The dye will stay in the water for about 48 hours and then it will change back to normal.
I posted my usual stupid St. Patrick’s Day Puns on social Media:
I also posted my yearly reminder that while “every one is Irish” on March 17th, St. Patrick wasn’t!
As I scrolled Facebook yesterday, it was full of plenty of people decked out in their best green outfits. Many people indulged on green beer, corned beef and cabbage, potatoes, and Irish stews in bars and restaurants beginning early in the morning.
I scrolled upon a post by a pastor friend of mine, and I felt that it was certainly worth sharing:
“Saint Patrick was a passionate evangelist who believed in the potential of young people to change the world. Instead of drinking green beer in his honor why not share the gospel with a young person today? He’d be way happier with that “
I think he would! I found a great quote from St. Patrick:
I didn’t partake in any green spirits yesterday. I didn’t even wear any green!
They always talk about the “Luck of the Irish.” Well, I am not Irish, but I consider myself one lucky man. I am married to the most beautiful woman on the planet and we will celebrate our 4th wedding anniversary on Saturday.
4 years ago …
I have been blessed with four amazing kids. My two oldest boys from my previous marriage and my daughter and baby boy with my wife. Who says you have to be Irish to be lucky?
Ella and AJ 2022Dante’ and Dimitri – 2015
Yes, I am one lucky Italian!
Oh, yeah, I guess I did partake in some St. Patrick’s Day shenanigans at work …
We do sleep studies on a lot of pediatric patients. This week, one kid drew pictures for us and we put them up on the board in the tech room. Another kid made a thank you card for us. I grabbed a piece of paper and some crayons and I drew a picture of one of my coworkers and said, “You had a kid in the room I was in last night, right?” I told her I “found” a picture that her patient must have drawn of her and that it looked just like her!
I’m sorry, every time I look at this, the lips make me think of the Joker from Batman!
I understand this is probably only funny to me … so I apologize. I hope you had a nice St. Patrick’s Day ….
I enjoy stupid puns. Every time someone says that spring is just around the corner, I think of the above picture!
Despite having a big snow a few days ago, the temperatures are rising and the snow has pretty much melted away. We actually got over 60 degrees today! When I left to go to work, I was pleasantly surprised at the temperature:
What a wonderful day to get out and enjoy! Of course, I had to sleep through most of it. It was nice to walk out of the bedroom to fresh air. Sam had the windows open in the house and there was a nice breeze in the living room.
On my way into work, it was very obvious to me that people were loving being outside! Just some of the things I witnessed as I drove in:
The park was crowded with parents and children.
Many people were walking their dogs.
Pairs of mom’s pushing kids in strollers and chatting with each other.
Two people playing catch at the park.
Extra long lines at the ice cream stand down the road.
Countless people walking without jackets.
Plenty of cars driving with Windows down.
People reading books while sitting on their front porch.
Earlier today, while I slept, Sam actually was able to get out the double stroller and she took her first run of the season. Ella already loves talking walks, but this was Andrew’s first jog through the neighborhood. Ella told me when I got up that she got to see her “puppy friend” (an old bassett hound we see on our walks).
I know I am excited for warmer weather! I love my walks with Ella and I’m sure Andrew will enjoy them, too!
I also know that I may be rushing things a bit. If I “uncrop” the temperature picture a little, and you take a good look at it, you will see that Old Man Winter isn’t quite done with us …
Stupid Snow!
I guess I just need to keep thinking positive and thinking spring!
Someone posted this on Facebook today and I thought it was worthy of a blog post. As a father, I hope to have instilled some (or all) of these things in my kids.
I’m not sure I have ever seen this particular list, but I have seen similar ones. Maybe it is that I’m older now, but #20 hit really hard. Perhaps you have additional rules that we can add to this list?
RULES FOR SONS:
1. Never shake a man’s hand sitting down.
2. Don’t enter a pool by the stairs.
3. The man at the BBQ Grill is the closest thing to a king.
4. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.
5. Request the late check-out.
6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
7. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.
8. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of gas.
9. Play with passion or not at all…
10. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look them in the eye.
11. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.
12. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.
13. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.
14. You marry the girl, you marry her family.
15. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.
16. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.
17. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.
18. Never turn down a breath mint.
19. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.
20. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.
21. Thank a veteran. Then make it up to him.
22. Eat lunch with the new kid.
23. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.
24. Ask your mom to play. She won’t let you win.
25. Manners maketh the man.
26. Give credit. Take the blame.
27. Stand up to Bullies. Protect those bullied.
28. Write down your dreams.
29. Always protect your siblings (and teammates).
30. Be confident and humble at the same time.
31. Call and visit your parents often. They miss you.
32. The healthiest relationships are those where you’re a team; where you respect, protect, and stand up for each other.
As the title of this blog suggests – I am excited. I have a couple things to be excited about and I wanted to share them with you. I guess I should explain the whole pirate flag first …
What Kind of Shoes Go With a Peg Leg?
My job often requires us to put in for time off months in advance. This is never an easy thing for me, because quite frankly I barely know what I am doing next week. At any rate, a day or two after the May schedule was posted, I found out about an event coming up that I had to go to!
There is a nature preserve and arboretum near us that is having a Daddy/Daughter event. It fell on a day that I work, so I hurried and put in a request to swap days if possible. Luckily, my boss was able to switch my schedule for the day so that I could go to this with Ella. I didn’t know much about the event, other than it has a pirate theme. Honesty, I thought it was a Daddy/Daughter dance with a pirate theme, but I don’t think that is the case now. Either way, I am excited to have a special night with my little girl.
I may have to do some searching on the internet for a pirate costume! When I thought about it, I remembered that there was an episode of Ella’s favorite show, Bubble Guppies that featured Alice Cooper (Yes, THE Alice Cooper) as a pirate named Windy Pete. Maybe we could go dressed like they did in that episode?
Of course, Windy Pete has a penguin, who he thinks is a parrot in the show. I might look a little funny with a penguin on my shoulder.
… and ear muffs! I would look weird as a pirate with ear muffs.
I can’t even begin to tell you how very excited I am to have this Daddy/Daughter event to look forward to in a few months!
Celebrating 4 Years
My wedding anniversary is coming up on Saturday. I am excited to be able to share some time with my wife. Our schedules do not allow for us to spend time together often. The schedules work well for minimizing the need for child care, but husband/wife time is lacking.
Having two children under 2 has really taken a lot out of both of us. We were lacking good sleep before, but it has reached a whole new level of tiredness. Lack of sleep is not good for anyone, and as sleep technologists we are well aware of the issues go along with that. We both tend to be a bit shorter with each other. Little things tend to get under our skin a bit more. All of it is due to our lack of sleep.
That being said, I decided that I wanted to make sure to do something special for our anniversary. My wife deserves it. I don’t know how she does it. I wish I could afford to have someone come over and watch the kids so she could sleep. She hasn’t really ever had a break and we’re both feeling the stress – her more than me!
I have never been the best gift giver. 9 times out of 10, she knows what I get before I even give it to her. I guess I really suck at that. I also am not the best at coming up with interesting things to do. I’m not sure why, but I kinda suck at that too.
I began a search of all of the nearby theaters a few weeks ago. I was hoping that somewhere there would be a play, a concert, or event we could go see. We had been talking about seeing the Symphony, but that show falls on a Sunday and she works. The only thing that I found happening on Saturday near us was a hockey game. I’m sure she wouldn’t enjoy that as much as I would (and it is not about me, but about her, so hockey was out)!
Interrupting to tell a funny story
I had taken $100 out of our account and stuck it in my wallet to use for our anniversary. I wasn’t quite sure what I was doing yet, but I wanted to have it ready. I had taken Andrew to the doctor and Sam gave me her insurance card. I put it back in my coat pocket to give back to her and forgot to do so when we got back. When I was sleeping before work, Sam was making appointments and needed the numbers off her card. So she went looking for it. No big deal, she knows the places I usually put my wallet, so she looked for her card – and found the $100.
Caught Red Handed!
When I woke up, she said she was looking for her card and asked why I had $100 in my wallet. I was so surprised that she found it, I fumbled around trying to lie my way out of why I had it. “It must have been in there for a long time and I forgot about it!” LOL – who the hell am I trying to kid?! She is my wife and knows me better than anyone! She knew I was flubbing my way through! I finally told her I was saving it for our anniversary. I should have just come out and told her, but I didn’t want her knowing I was spending that much.
This Saturday
As far as Saturday night, I knew I was going to take her to dinner. We always go to Lucky’s Steakhouse, which we love, but I wanted to do something a bit different. Some co-workers and friends offered up some really neat places (which I plan on going to in the future), but I wanted to stay semi close to home so we weren’t out all night. We have a sitter, and I know she’s totally ok with us being out late, but I know Sam would feel better if we were close.
So I have two things planned – one is dinner and the other is a surprise. I really hope that she is going to like it. I can’t wait to go. She knows what towns we are going to and keeps questioning “What is there that we can do?” She’s pretty good at figuring stuff out, so I hope that she doesn’t before Saturday.
I also ordered her a couple gifts. One has already arrived (and needs to be wrapped). The other is something that probably won’t arrive before Saturday. Again, she probably has some sort of idea about what I may have gotten her, so I hope she doesn’t figure it out. I wish that I could give gifts like she does. She hears me mention something off the cuff and stuffs it away in her mental filing cabinet until she needs it and then always surprises me. But she can always figure mine out. Example: We were at Target the other day. She saw that her favorite author, Jodi Picoult, had a new book out. I immediately think “I need to buy this for her.” If I hand her a gift bag, she will know that it is that book. (For the record – I did NOT buy that book for her! Now, I may at a later date, but not for our anniversary.
I am truly excited to have a day/night with my wife. I know she would be happy just walking the mall (as a matter of fact, she told me that!), but I am really hoping to make the day special for her. I need to make sure that I find something that we can do together at least once a month. We need a date night. It is easy to lose “us” time with two kids, and “us” is SO important right now.
I will often talk about things that come up on my Facebook Memories page. Today, the following photo came up of Ella from one year ago:
The caption on Facebook reads: Ella wearing my new favorite outfit – Daddy’s Little Princess
This reminded me of a story from this week. Ella has a crown that reads “Big Sister” she got before AJ was born. She put it on and was walking around the house saying she was “Princess Ella.” She gave the crown to Sam. I said “It’s queen mommy,” and she said she was “Queen Ella.” It is amazing to see how her imagination is blossoming.
When she wears her tutu, she’s a pretty ballerina. When she wears her nurse PJ’s (or her stethoscope) she’s Doctor Ella. She gets more and more creative as she sits and plays. I can’t get enough of watching her.
Little Prince
Yesterday, we celebrated AJ’s 5 month birthday. It’s crazy that so much time has already gone by. He is already in 6-9 month clothes! He is a big boy! Sam got him an outfit for Easter, but the way he is growing, he may outgrow it before then! Tonight, Sam sent a picture of his toe popping through the foot of his pajamas! He may just be my football player!
He is such a mellow little guy. He smiles a lot. He only really fusses when he is hungry or when he doesn’t want to go to sleep. Nothing warms my heart more that to see him light up when I walk into the room. Whether I am walking in from work or walking into the living room after waking up, I can count on a big smile from him and Ella yelling, “Daddy” and giving me a hug.
With each Ella story I tell, I know there will be AJ stories that are similar. I can’t wait for those. I am looking forward to seeing them grow and bond together. I have a feeling they are going to be pretty good friends. I love them both so much!
Let me start by saying that I would never EVER question God about His creations. He “created all creatures great and small” (according to the Cecil Frances Alexander poem). That being said, I often wonder just what the purpose of mosquitoes are, and hate when I get mosquito bites. I’m not too fond of all the bees that seem to love being in my yard either, but I know that they certainly serve a purpose.
For the past few months, there is another creature that is driving me crazy – box elder bugs.
It is the dead of winter and these pesky things are all over the place! Shouldn’t they all be dead!? I am not lying when I say that on average, I kill about 10 of these things daily inside our house. Personally, I think the sole purpose of these things is to annoy people. I despise them! I am ashamed to admit the joy that I get out of squishing them in a tissue and flushing them down the toilet!
I wish I knew how they were getting in the house. I read somewhere that they like to hang out in maple trees. So I would imagine the maple tree that is next to our house is the source of them. I have seen plenty of “home remedies” for how to kill them once they are in the house, but honestly, squishing them gives me a sense of satisfaction.
What I can’t seem to find is a good way to keep them out. A few years ago, the issue was lady bugs. Believe it or not, we’re getting those too! Thankfully, the stink bugs haven’t been around for awhile. I remember having issues with them at my other house years ago. I know there are some things you can spread or spray around your house to prevent pests from coming in, but none are specific to box elder bugs. I would welcome a sure fire way to get rid of them!
Thank you for listening to my rant.
I suppose that I will be spending a lot of time outside caulking windows this spring .